From Jonathan Carroll’s Blog - CarrollBlog 3.13
At the end of the film A VERY LONG ENGAGEMENT, after many struggles and setbacks the heroine is reunited with her adored fiancee. The only problem is the lover has suffered a grievous head wound that erased all of his memory. When they are reunited, he doesn’t know who she is. In Julie Christie’s recent film AWAY FROM HER, she plays a woman with Alzheimer’s Disease who gradually loses her memory and with it her ability to recognize her husband of many years. At the end of both stories the ones “left behind” look at their partners with equal amounts of longing and confusion because there they are right in front of them, but no, they aren’t “there” at all any more. In both cases it brings up the essential question– what makes us who we are? Our physical selves? Our memories? Our ties to other people? Our achievements (including our children)… Other, perhaps more ineffable/undefinable things? It’s stuff for a serious ontological discussion (or philosophy class), but also an intriguing question that can be batted back and forth across the ping pong table of your own mind when you’re in the bath tonight: what makes me who I am? If you took away this or that (my memory, or my sense of humor, or my eyesight, for example) would I still be me? Or would the loss of such things disappear me?
